or a misunderstanding by a close one, making you always the "wrong" one..
or something really bad your kids did that makes you just wanna burst into flames, or
whether it is something that didnt go the way you planned..
or whatever can make you lose your mind and almost get into the verge of madness, just
BOUNCE IT OFF (funny illustration of what i mean)
yeah like reflecting off sunlight, or a ball that is thrown at you, only to hit you at one tiny spot, then bounces off and never heads towards you again..
Thats how I try my best to treat matters as such... I've always heard stuff that would make a normal person mad. Yet, I just easily take it and don't think about it, because I want to be the better person who forgives and forgets, the person who isn't rude, and can control their feelings.. The person whom Allah describes In surat Al-Emran {133-135}
"{133} Be quick in the race for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Garden whose width is that (of the whole) of the heavens and of the earth, prepared for the righteous,-
{134} Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity, or in adversity; who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men;- for God loves those who do good
{135} And those who, having done something to be ashamed of, or wronged their own souls, earnestly bring God to mind, and ask for forgiveness for their sins, - and who can forgive sins except God?- and are never obstinate in persisting knowingly in (the wrong) they have done."
وَسَارِعُوا إِلَىٰ مَغْفِرَةٍ مِّن رَّبِّكُمْ وَجَنَّةٍ عَرْضُهَا السَّمَاوَاتُ وَالْأَرْضُ أُعِدَّتْ لِلْمُتَّقِينَ"
الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ
وَالَّذِينَ إِذَا فَعَلُوا فَاحِشَةً أَوْ ظَلَمُوا أَنفُسَهُمْ ذَكَرُوا اللَّهَ فَاسْتَغْفَرُوا لِذُنُوبِهِمْ وَمَن يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَلَمْ يُصِرُّوا عَلَىٰ مَا فَعَلُوا وَهُمْ "يَعْلَمُونَ
And because: "Whether people speak evil of you, in your presence or behind your back, or they do evil to you in either of those ways, all is known to Allah Almighty. It is not for you to punish. Your best course is not to do evil in your turn, but to do what will best repel the evil. Two evils do not make a good." Source
So to each their own actions, the good will gain rewards for good deeds, and the bad will backfire on those who speak it.
Be patient, forgive and love, have faith and throw away your tears and sadness.. you are a Good person, and will be known for that.. To Allah and to all mankind..
SO...........
if your husband says you can't take good care of your house, and it isn't as clean as his mom's, (while God knows you're trying your best )... just bounce it off. (or have them do it haha)
if they say you are too spoiled and spend to much money,( while ur trying to save each and every penny u can) ... then just bounce it off.
When they say someone is better than you because you can't do something right or the same way... just bounce it off.
when someone compares you to others and starts talking about differences between you (who does that?).. just bounce it off.
When someone thinks you're snobby and stuck up while all you want to do is please them.. just forget it and bounce it off..
When kids do their best to make sure u have no rest all day whatsoever, just say alhamdulilah, and enjoy it, they wont be small for long.. and bounce it off,..
When your in a hurry to prepare your best meal, and stuff happens and it burns and turns out your worst meal ever and people come over for dinner.. laugh about it and order pizza.. and bounce it off.. everyone makes mistakes!
Try it, it works! for me at least!
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